John Aquila

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  Life after JW

  by bsand20 in

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  2. experiences

  haven't been on this site since fall of last year.

  i was very active in spreading awareness and getting information to help me cope with the fact that my mother cut off complete communication with me as of jan 2014, but i guess too much of a good thing was too much for me to handle.

  i ended up getting panic/anxiety attacks.

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  The dr asked me to maybe try and pin point the triggers and so far....looks like it stems from anytime I read or respond to a JW rant about how I"m wrong and they are right. Or it could be an article in the news talking about cults. Anything that is remotely related to JW's gets my blood boiling and I react. I feel really stuck and upset that I always said I was not going to let the Watchtower have an emotional hold on my feelings and space in my head but it seems like they are winning.

  You just pin pointed the triggers that cause you distress. You need to stay away from the triggers-JW RANT- that upsets you until you get to the point where you can handle the jw rant. Start filling your mind with anything not related to JWism.
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  The Confederate Flag

  by Simon in

  1. social
  2. current

  the latest controversy over the confederate flag just sums up to me the state of dysfunction that exists in american society.. in summary: a white supremacist nutter shoots 9 black people dead in a church.

  he's clearly inspired by the messages of others which the confederate flag is often a symbol of.. it seems like a no-brainer to remove it.

  not only isn't it removed, it isn't even lowered at all as a mark of respect.. and of course now there are the people who want to defend their right to have it.

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  Terry, you would make a good history professor. Your lectures would be awesome.
  
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  Single Sisters

  by BashfulAshG in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  am i the only one who has single, desperate sisters in the congregation?

  they tend to be holier-than-thou, frumpty, but in private talk about getting married.

  but they don't understand why no brother will look at them.

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  ToesUp

  Sisters with knee length skirts, high heels and make up = need to be a little more "spiritual."

  I guess I was in the None-spiritual - weak - congregation because most of the young sisters wore black pencil tight skirts and bubble dresses 3 or 4 inches above the knees.

  Now that I do miss.
  
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  Is it necessary to prepare for the Watchtower or book study?

  by BashfulAshG in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  all of my years in the truth, i never understood why we had to study before each meeting.

  the contents are self-explanatory with the answers to the printed question within the first or the last sentence of the paragraph.

  then, commenting never made sense, especially comments and experiences that don't answer the printed question.

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  Sir82

  Our WT conductor bragged, in a service meeting interview, that he literally goes over the article 4 separate times in advance, prior to conducting the study.

  I got a better one. An old coot used to brag that he started on Monday and each day after that till Saturday night. Once each day. When the CO heard about it, they had him give his experience in one of the Circuit Assemblies and everyone clapped like crazy. Total hours studying one article, between 12-15 hours.

  His wife ran off with a worldly man.
  
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  What are the current rules about vaping from the GB?

  by purrpurr in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i mean e cigs and vaping.

  not even tobacco inhaling but inhaling other stuff like herbs etc.

  is this allowed?

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  If you are in the wrong congregation with the wrong body of elders, they might tell you it is wrong because vaping rhymes with raping.

  Just remember YMCA, birthdays, chimes, spanx, and you get the drift.
  
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  Ladies who do feel about men with nose hair?

  by James Mixon in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i know a guy who have more hair in his nose then on his head.

  you become older your hair in your nose become gray and it looks as if .

  you have a dirty nose.

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  blondie

  Actually, nose hair outside the nose is worse.

  
  You mean like this;
  
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  JWism retaking control of wife's family

  by The JHWH in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  a situation regarding this religion has developed which i fear might have negative implications on me and wifes lives, and i'm looking for thoughts and advice in how to approach the situation.

  i'll start with some background information to enlighten the situation.. i'm a male in mid-twenties, raised secularly, married to an ex-jw woman (on paper still a jw though), who's been raised in the jw religion, although somewhat untheocratically shall i say.

  for instance her mother has 5 children with 3 different men, all non-jws, and has had many other relationships as well.

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  maksutov

  My wife knows enough to know that it is not true, but she still believes.

  
  That the key right there. They need to know "Enough" to know it's not true.

  That take research and time, lots of time. When I was in, I saw the bullshit, but it took commitment and lots of time to research thoroughly the Organization and compare it to what the Bible actually teaches. Most people don't have the training to do that kind of research. It was until after I went to College that I learned how to research. It took me about a year of intense research to finally come to the realization that the WT was a cult. There are no short cuts.
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  How strong were you in “The Truth?”

  by John Aquila in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  when you were still asleep in the watchtower organization and had no idea of ttatt.

  what would you have done if you were in a serious accident and all of a sudden you woke up in the emergency hospital room with all the brothers and sisters at your side and your spouse cheering you on to be faithful to jehovah.

  then the doctor comes up to you and tells you that you are about to go into surgery because there is no time to lose and the only way to live is to take a blood transfusion ?

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  LisaRose

  I wasn't strong in the religion, but I still would have died rather than take blood.

  I would have died also Lisa

  Twitch

  When I was 10, I had an appendicitis attack and went from normalcy to excruciating pain within a couple hours. Off to the hospital we went I'm powerless. I just want to live.

  We forget how powerless children are in the Borg Twitch.

  James Mixon
  

  My strength was tested when my 4 years old daughter became ill, and the Doctor

  told me she may have Sickle cell anemia. I thought screw this if she needs blood,

  blood she will get. My wife called the Elders to come and talk with me, she was willing

  to let our daughter die.

  James, all Jw parents have no idea the danger they put their children through because of being in the WT organization

  fiddler

  I considered myself a 'good' witness but this was a subject I didn't want to think about the reality of...picture ostrich with head in sand. I think that is true for a lot of witnesses. They just don't like to think about the reality of needing a blood transfusion and really, most never face it.

  You’re right fiddler, witnesses don’t think about the reality of needing a transfusion until it happens and then it’s to late
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  How strong were you in “The Truth?”

  by John Aquila in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  when you were still asleep in the watchtower organization and had no idea of ttatt.

  what would you have done if you were in a serious accident and all of a sudden you woke up in the emergency hospital room with all the brothers and sisters at your side and your spouse cheering you on to be faithful to jehovah.

  then the doctor comes up to you and tells you that you are about to go into surgery because there is no time to lose and the only way to live is to take a blood transfusion ?

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  Wow! A lot of us just barely made it alive out of the cult.

  How easy it would have been to just refuse and die.
  
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  How strong were you in “The Truth?”

  by John Aquila in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  when you were still asleep in the watchtower organization and had no idea of ttatt.

  what would you have done if you were in a serious accident and all of a sudden you woke up in the emergency hospital room with all the brothers and sisters at your side and your spouse cheering you on to be faithful to jehovah.

  then the doctor comes up to you and tells you that you are about to go into surgery because there is no time to lose and the only way to live is to take a blood transfusion ?

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  disillusioned 2

  Fortunately I didn't die then and got to bring up my baby.

  That's a big deal, I knew a few who did refused and died. that was about 40 years ago. They missed out on a lot. Now I feel sorry for them. They had no idea.